What concerns me is the way the effect of that fear is magnifying and expanding off in all sorts of directions. But there’s nothing new here right, that’s just the nature of fear, fear is not to blame and blaming actually isn’t going to shift this, only spread it out like a huge wave and trigger old money fears, and fearful, reactive behaviour. Can you feel it now?

I for one want to do something about it. So, as a coach I am asking the question, what wants to happen now, and what can be done to break this cycle? I get nowhere when I am in this space. How about you?

So, I have to ask myself, is it possible to step out of this paralyzing fear and step into another narrative where we dialogue together and think outside the box thereby transforming the fear? And if this storm of crisis is to continue, is the only option to sit tight and wait it out, or can we find within us resources to break through and act anew in powerfully transformative ways?

These seem to be options present to us now and personally I believe that coaching is here now amongst us for a reason and holds within it some powerful solutions producing opportunity on a landscape of tension.

• In this landscape what wants to happen in a greater sense?

• What have you got within you to shift your own tension and worry?

• How can you personally contribute to BEing in the world in your own greater potential?

I hand it over to you to support your own evolution and that of your kids and their education and future by asking you to delve deeper and ask yourSELF these questions.

In fully living our life purpose and creating deeply successful businesses, I would like to remind you of the power of giving as one of the Spiritual Laws of Success connected to ABUNDANCE.

But what do YOU gain in yourself and in your business from giving generously?

Firstly, giving is not about time. Giving is a way of life. You just do it because, primarily, it makes you feel better, and sets you and your energy up for the day. Of course, what it also does is expand out into the world around you. Giving, then, is all about transforming energy.

Giving starts with giving to yourself. One of the things that hold the amazing people I work with back, is the belief they have that they are not enough… yet! We tell ourselves that we don’t know enough, we haven’t got enough experience, or that we are not good enough.

If you believe this to be true, take a look at what it produces outwardly. You will find that it produces more of the same lack outwardly that we complain about inwardly. What we “see” if we begin with the belief that we are not enough yet, is a lack of response from the outside world, but not because our belief is true, but rather because by having that belief we very effectively block the outside world from knowing that we even exist. By believing the lie that we are not enough, we don’t get out there and share what we are and what we offer the world.

We often stop that channel to the outside world because we are scared. We think, “what will people think?” “What if I say something wrong?” that is often the first thought we have, and we begin the whole process from the energy of fear.

What if you could turn that all around from the very beginning? What if the story we tell ourselves could change into an energetically aligned story where what you want to achieve on the outside is in alignment with what we feel on the inside?

Try this. Try thinking about what you want to create on the outside. Maybe you want to have more clients, maybe you want to bring like-minded people into your life, maybe you want to find your life partner. Whatever it is you want to draw into your life, you CAN right now by shifting the energy first.

If you want more clients, if you want your life partner, and then go into the story that you believe to be true about not being enough yet, and then go into the feeling of fear that follows that thought, then you create an imbalance. What you want, is not what you are BE-ing. What we are looking for balance. We need to balance what we want on the outside with how we are BE-ing from the inside.

So in this way it’s all about energy. It’s all about balancing energy.

Ways to lift your own energy

When you give something away willingly such as a smile, a helping hand, or when you really listen to someone deeply for five minutes without judgement, how does this affect you ENERGETICALLY? And is it really that hard to do? Even if you don’t feel that great today, why not start playing with changing that? What have you got to lose?

Giving lifts energy. And when you give consciously no matter how briefly at the beginning of the day it slips you onto a wavelength of positivity and therefore a sense of effortlessness.

Giving connects you to your heart and when you stop and feel the energy it produces IN you, you feel your heart race because it connects you to your PURPOSE which is to SERVE.

So when you give to your clients, or your friends, or your loved ones, perhaps with the extra effort to really listen, or with a smile or a laugh, you actually lift your energy and, because energy is always reflecting off itself, it will reflect back onto you from them.

When you ARE BE-ing what you want from the outside, what you WANT starts to come TO you.

1.  BE

2. GIVE

3. RECEIVE

It’s that simple

TRY THIS:

• Look at where you are energetically. Where is your focus? Is it directed inwardly or outwardly? Are you obsessing about what others will think or focussing on the great feeling you have inside you connected to giving?
• If it is all about you, you will most likely feel weak, perhaps fearful, self conscious etc.
• Look OUTWARD and GIVE GENEROUSLY.
• Be honest and come from the heart

Perhaps your gift is not received. That’s ok, that is not your story that is someone else’s story and is not within your control. You can’t control how they will receive your offer of support or your gift of positive energy.

It may press their buttons which is really only an opportunity for them to learn why and discover a way out if they choose.

Giving, is LOVE, CONSIDERATION, and SERVICE.

When you GIVE generously from the heart you are standing in your AUTHENTICITY and in your business when you give this way, you release the tense energy of the worry of feeling you are pushing something on someone or “selling” to someone, and you step into a place which is not restricted or tight, but rather open, flowing and authentically you, which is another way to say ABUNDANCE.

If nothing else, give it a test run, and enjoy it for yourself.

As I wrote the article yesterday it was 11 March, the anniversary in Spain (where I live) of the bombings which killed nearly 300 people in 2004. As I chose the photo of the stone’s effect of radiating ripples expanding out, I was unaware of the catastrophe taking place in another part of the planet. Coincide? I think not!!

Images like a drop of water or a stone falling into water show the effect in miniature we’ve all seen with the massive earthquake in Japan yesterday.

And YES, like yesterday’s blog article described, I know that we are all feeling the effect going first inward, and for sure our hearts are all beating loudly and we are struck with a strong feeling of what can we do?

There is tangible tremor reflected from the earthquake and the nuclear explosions now in our bodies, and in our hearts, for loved ones in Japan and loved ones all over the world and also for the very fragility of the earth we are all responsible for.

So what can we do for this entire, immense big picture?

What can we do in even the smallest way (like the small drop in the water) to SHIFT what is out of balance with the way we are continuing to act?

What act can YOU take right now that takes you out of helplessness and into somethingness? Even the smallest, most personal act of love, taken by us all will shift the energy globally into a powerful place to begin clearing up the damage not just physical, but emotional and spiritual.

My prayer is that we stand up and truly listen to our own hearts right this very minute and take deep, deep thoughtful responsibility starting at home and rippling out into our WORLD

Paula is a gift in my life. She came to me when my mum was ill with cancer and she performed her transformative magic with me by giving me a searching, gentle, healing massage combined with Reiki and Aromatherapy. And once again, deep shifts took place within me.

She is the person who, by BEing who and how she is, by Being connected to wisdom and channelling it through her work, passed this onto me by the way she is always able to SEE and ACT ON opportunity whenever or however it comes up.

The opportunity to connect is always present. It comes TO us in all sorts of ways. It may come through catastrophe beyond our control such as the recent earthquake in my homeland New Zealand, or in manmade ones such as the bombings in Madrid of which I was a first hand witness.

In times like these something powerful happens. When catastrophe hits it hits all of us, and all of us instinctively stop, go quiet, and listen to the overpowering beating from within our hearts. It is inevitably a moment that draws us automatically away from our normal outer world of noise on the battlefield of the everyday, and pulls us inward and then expands us outward to connect with the common link we have always at every moment with those around us. We know that they know, we feel what they feel, and we come together with our hearts wide open to SERVE others as best we know how. It becomes a moment of deep communion and connection with ourselves and our worlds.

But this moment also comes in the everyday moments as well. In India I have seen early evening gatherings of families and individuals standing close by, watching in individual silence and common communion as the golden sun bids them farewell. Or when the dry season breaks in Mexico and the heavens open up and release its offering in great abundance down to earth. This is a moment where I have seen people stop what they are doing and just BE with themselves and with others in silence, watching, smelling and feeling the change.

By simply letting ourselves BE OPEN to the changes and shifts happening all the time all around us and within us, we give the moment over to our inner world, we live our senses and our hearts, we let all that is within us BREATHE for a moment.

Give yourself this gift today, just to BE with whatever is happening right now without judgement or condition, and open to the opportunity of the miracles that can occur when you simply LET GO.

Thank you Paula for passing this wisdom on.

If you live in New Zealand and could do with some incredible, profound, gentle transformation, I am happy to pass on Paula’s details.

Walking back this morning from dropping off my little girl at school, I just had to send you something on this, International Working Women’s Day. Coincidences don’t exist right?! I opened a favourite book to the very page, with the very message:

“The talent of women for communion, nurturing, and intuitive action has never been more needed than now, as we strive to meet the diverse cultural and environmental challenges of our times. Patriarchy, hierarchy, and obendience to a higher authority all have run their historical course. Governments, families, and businesses built on these unyielding principles of organisation are toppling, giving way to more elastic feminine forms of co-operation, communication, and wholeness.” Carol Spendard La Russo

May we all honour this and bring the qualities of connection, intuition and nurturing into every part of this day!

Doing the work to finding out what we love, what deeply matters to us, leads to all sorts of creative ideas and ways of expressing that. In the case of this video, a Japanese teacher delivers a different school syllabus to his six year old students creating an environment where his deepest values bring out love and compassion amongst the fellow students. He encourages them to be great, to listen to their hearts, to be honest and to make a community for the benefit of all. What a class! Take a look!

YOUTUBE VIDEO FROM A JAPANESE CLASSROOM OF SIX YEAR OLDS

New Zealand earthquake 22 Feb 2011

There are certain events that crush people and not others.

When a certain major financial investment is broken or destroyed by nature or by the man-made financial climate, some of us go down, and our hope, our spirit are eroded away. For others, that is not the case.

And I ask myself WHY?

And the answer becomes a very hopeful forecast for the sustainability of the planet, and in this case within the context of the businesses we run.

It’s all based on the STORY we tell and where and how we put our focus.

This story, is about taking the power we have invested in the word and conversations we have, and how much we believe that story, as well as how prepared we are to see it all differently and see the endless powerful possibility of a new focus in appreciation of the human assets which remain untouched in us during a financial crisis, and which can carry us through times of economic crisis instead of spiralling us down and crushing us and our families and our spirit to boot.

If we believe the story that money is the most important asset we have (which is generally the case in the Western World), we leave ourselves wide open to be crushed by it because we have invested almost all our power in one basket, the money asset basket. And from thinking and telling that story, we reinforce it and make it even truer. We become powerless pawns in the game of money.

When a financial crisis hits, as it has hit our shores in the Western World, we often dissolve into a pool of FEAR, and let that fear govern how we see what we have left.

Look at it this way. Ask yourself, what do you have left in terms of assets? Yes, you may have less financial assets left, but has the financial crisis touched or affected any of your other assets such as your connection to and love of your family, your clients, your ability to serve them with your own special talents and techniques, or your health, or the brilliance of your own children and their future?

The big financial story “out there” in the world is but one story, one focus which we are pouring the best part of our energy into and if we continue to do so, we will only accelerate the process, steering us toward the more imminent consequences of that story and that belief.

The other story or perspective is far more liberating.

This story is one where we can catch the process before it catches us! If we don’t change our perspective and go into fear, reaction, lack, and general panic mode, we will certainly create more of the same. And if you multiply that by the number of people thinking that way, it will of course magnify the effect and erode our hope, our belief in our ability to create sustainable solutions to the problem.

What would happen, if, instead of reacting negatively and focussing on scarcity, we catch ourselves doing that, and immediately put our focus on what we do have in terms of resources? Certainly our energy would be different, which would affect our outlook, thereby affecting our actions and of course the results of those actions.

The new paradigm here, is a shift of perspective from one of scarcity or lack of resources, (which clearly is an erroneous one,) to one of sufficiency, not in terms of money, but in terms of personal ability and empowerment to celebrate what already exists in our lives in terms of wealth to be converted into (amongst other things) a deeper appreciation and understanding of the riches we innately possess.

You start to open up the box of creativity which is YOU and believe in your Self. (That word “Self” has a capital S because I’m talking here about the Bigger you, the Wider you, the You which shines no matter what is going on around you.) This is the person you love being around and this you feels like it’s flowing with everything around it.

There are times however when, especially as a beginner in all this, you are going to get in your own way! I call this “Self sabotage”. It’s those times when old voices (yours and others’ voices) speak up. They are old barriers you are familiar with and they are obviously the points where you get stuck and where you hold your Self back, you limit the brilliance of your Self.

Examples? Ok, when you begin a business there are a many details to organise. It’s a bit like becoming the main chef for a dinner party. You have to work out what sort of chef you are, who you are cooking for, what your guests want to eat and then, as if that wasn’t enough, you have to go out and buy the food, come home and cook it in a way in which it all comes out on the table at roughly the same time.

 This can be overwhelming, so one way you Self sabotage is by letting this overwhelm you and then you get blocked up and stuck, which is when those old “I can’t do this” voices sing loudest – and worse… you BELIEVE those voices to be Truth.

One of the best ways to overcome overwhelm is to centre yourself and discover what you need in this very moment. What is most important to you right now in order to overcome?

It may actually be that you need to give yourself and break from the “to do” list and put your focus on what you need personally right at this moment. This will clear your mind and take you to a deeper place of knowing.

Once you have done this, deal with your overwhelm by breaking down the projects into smaller tasks and keep track of each one and how you are progressing.

Another example; you think you have to be the expert in all this all at once. Once again, overload, overwhelm comes into play. And do you know the worst thing that most of us do then? As if it was scripted we hear those old voices telling us we can’t do it (for whatever reason) and then we focus on the negative belief that we can’t do it and we watch that negative expand and multiply all over the place.

This of course confirms our belief that we can’t do it, “it’s too hard”, “it’s too slow”, it’s too fast”, “it’s too much work” and mostly “it’s just that I’m not good enough”.

And all because we started to do something we really wanted to do, right?

Wrong!

What is really important to bear in mind when starting out is this: usually when we start out we experience what some call, “beginner’s luck” – we find a client effortlessly, we find a great deal for our webpage, we meet someone who offers to read our copy or show our work. But as we get closer to our goal, make no mistake about it, things will start to seem to get tougher.

I say “seem” because what is actually happening is that the Universe or whatever powers that be, are making sure that you start to evolve and strengthen what it takes internally to run this race and really excel and shine!!

When you get in your way and Self sabotage by focussing on the negative, or expecting to be an expert in everything, or getting overwhelmed, these things can slow you down enough so you have to stop and take a look at what needs to be worked on in you, what needs strengthening. They are certainly never signs that what your negative mind is telling you is true. NEVER!!

And as a solo business owner you will need to understand this in order to be able to get out there and really serve those people you were put here to serve.

I spent $US 10.000 on my Money Marketing and Soul Certification Programme. (Yes mum, I did!)

A lot of things went through my mind when I found out how much it was going to cost me. That is I had a whole lot of jumbled thoughts mixed with strong emotions. Some of the thoughts revolved around:

1. The “impossibility” of getting that much money
2. The fact that it didn’t seem “fair” to me – a word my mum could tell you more about the way I had been using my whole life, around just about everything in life
3. My desperate need to learn more and move my business forward but from a place of meaning, value and (most importantly for me) from my soul

All these things and more went through my mind. It was a whole jumble of logic and emotion.

Then after a relatively brief amount of soul-searching I decided firstly that I was damn well going to do it. I would “release” all my savings my darling granny had left me, and go and do this course (and how proud of me she would have been!!)

Now let me tell you something else that actually happened after I decided to go for it.

I had been asleep for a long time. I had a truly unresolved and unfulfilled urge to transform the world and saw only obstacles in my way.

The morning after “releasing” my block and making the decision to take action, I woke at 5am (incredibly) FULL, ALIVE, and TINGLING. I “woke up”!! And I knew, beyond all knowing that I had made the right decision, to the point where I actually thanked them for charging so much!

By deeply understanding the VALUE of our service as healers of this world (and I mean from the soul, not from the head) we begin the process of TRANSFORMATION in others.

We all know that television, cars, even houses if you push me, are not what is going to transform and affect the change that the human race is so desperately seeking. And I believe that part of our duty as healers is to start the process of transformation in others by getting them to PRIORITISE what is really going to truly lead them to health and satisfaction in life once and for all, by using the very thing our society values so deeply, as a tool for change – money.

Yes, I AM passionate about this. But I am passionate because I know first-hand that it works.

Honestly, when your clients say they can’t afford it, you have various options. Here are some:

1. Common Reaction Mode – say you are sorry for them and draw back from action. That is; change nothing, keep things exactly as they are. Keep yourself and your prospective client in that sort of victim mode.
2. Reaction mode – adjust your prices because they have pulled your heart strings which they know they can pull because they are human, they sense it in you, after all, you are a healer right? Again, nothing really changes here for either party.
3. Creative mode – (this is where you get to affect the change you want to see AND work towards a deeper healing.) CHALLENGE them powerfully. Help them by sorting out their priorities, HOLD THEM POWERFUL and ask them how much this is truly WORTH to them. This is not a game if we are really serious about what we want to affect. Put it into a reality framework they will understand. Speak to their materialism, their purses, because after all, this is what will really challenge deep commitment.

This may sound hard, but it is not cruel hard, it is empowering hard because it makes it crystal clear that if we are serious about our commitment we do find a way – whether that be by borrowing the money, spending all our savings, selling our TV set, (at least for the time being while we spend our time instead dedicated to ourselves and our own evolution). Whatever it takes this certainly brings “putting your money where your mouth is” right home to us.

Then, make it doable for your client. Break down the investment into a payment plan, or divide the payments onto different credit cards. But most importantly, get them to deeply commit to the change they want to see in themselves and the world!

Here is a list of things to do when you there’s a block in the road. And remember, every single block is an opportunity for growth, for learning and for bettering yourself as a creator and as a person

Get ACTIVE – DO something ANYTHING

SPEAK to like minded people – connect with people on the same page as you

SATURATE YOURSELF with what you want to learn, become, love

“What you focus on EXPANDS” – think of examples in your life when this has been true positively or negatively

INVESTIGATE – find courses in what you love, feel close to, can associate with and then DO at least one of them

FIND SUPPORT hire a coach to help you breakthrough into living the life you want to live

ELIMINATE any LIMITATION, holding back – start to speak in the positive

LISTEN TO YOUR OUTWARD VOICE and the content of what you say. For example when you say “I don’t know” realise that by saying that you are affirming in you that that is true!

REPHRASE what you say to yourself – eg “I DO know, it just hasn’t come up yet – then expect a miracle and be watching out for it

FEEL POSSIBILITY and hold it for a while in the palm of your hand. This is the beginning of the breakthrough

DO A CHECK ON YOURSELF, where are you now compared to where you were before?

What is one thing you really want to DO NOW which is going to support YOU in stepping forward into YOU?

Get DOING!!!

CREATE A COLLAGE of all the things you love and stick it on the wall for a week – paint it, draw on it, write on it, stick pictures on it

AND… make sure you ENJOY the process!!